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World AIDS Day
Have any of you ever been really pressurized to have premarital sex? Or have you done it and is concerned of the repercussions? Well, all I wanna say is... You're not alone this time round.
Over the years, I've noticed how situations like these are becoming more and more common amongst teenagers. A question that rings in the minds of teenagers everywhere is, "when is the right time to have sex?"
Although I don't follow the Christian belief, I'm aware that it's only appropriate to have post-marriage sex. In fact, that's how it's actually supposed to be.
Sex is said to be something really precious and should only be given to someone who you really love and trust.
Haha, okay enough with all the preaching. I know that's no longer the case in this generation; usually from the age of 15-19.
Let's be realistic here. Sex is pleasure, pleasure is to have sex. That's how majority of the people around my age feel. And as much as it seems like it's a deadly sin, it's actually pretty universal. At least to me, I actually noticed a vast increment on the number of teenagers being involved in it over the years.
When I was in primary school, even the word "sex" was a no-no, as if you could lose your virginity just by saying it. And when I got into sec school, it scares me every now and then at the number of people who were no longer virgins.
THEN, when I got into Pre-U... it's like... a norm/trend. WOW.
Well, I'm not encouraging it, neither am I saying I'm against it. In fact, I'm absolutely cool with it.
BUT PLEASE, for god's sake... Don't ever do it just because everyone around you is doing so! That'll probably be one of your biggest regrets in life.
Back to the question - Have you actually thought through what the consequences are before allowing it to take place?
Premarital sex is usually the cause of STIs (sexually transmitted infections), teen pregnancy, and deep emotions of regret.
STIs flourish in a society of premarital sex, where teens have many sex partners.
Simple. If society has the power to pressurize teens to have premarital sex, it has to be able to educate them about the dangers of it too.
After doing some research... Here are some recent data on:
1) HIV/AIDS among people in Singapore
In 2012, another 469 Singapore residents were newly reported of HIV infection. About 93% of the new cases were males and 7% were females.
Nearly 90% of these cases reported in 2012 were between the ages of 20-59, with 63% being single, 23% married and 10% were divorced/separated.
This brings the total number of HIV infected Singapore residents to 5,775 as of end 2012. Of the people infected, 61% with HIV do not have the virus under control.
2) Most common ways of being infected? How do people get infected?
There are 3 modes of HIV transmission:
1) Blood Transfusion;
2) Unprotected Penetrative Sex (UPS);
3) Mother to Baby during pregnancy and during delivery.
3) What should I do to avoid infection?
You can practice ‘ABCD’: (A) Abstinence, (B) being faithful, (C) correct and consistent use of condoms and (D) early detection. These principles are relevant for everyone regardless of the risk group they belong to.
4) How long can I live with HIV? If I have AIDS, how long can I live?
People living with HIV can live long and healthy lives so long as they seek medical care, look after themselves and live life positively.
5) What should I do if I know that someone has HIV or AIDS?
Act normally. HIV cannot be transmitted through handshake, hug, sharing food, kissing, or sharing household utensils, etc. The biggest challenge for people living with HIV is stigma and discrimination.
.
.
.
I guess one of the things that we all have to face eventually would be the dilemma on whether to put on a condom during sexual intercourse or not, simple due to a the mindset - "Nah, it's fine... Nothing will happen to me."
Well, what I've to say is... Avoid the hesitance, it's always better to be safe than sorry. Like they always say, prevention is way better than cure. No one could save your life for a wrong decision you make.
HIV is an epidemic in the world today because of unprotected sex. I'm not saying you'll be completely safe just cos you put on a condom, I'm just saying that it would decrease the chances of you being infected.
Remember how I mentioned that you won't be in this alone in the earlier part? Durex came up with a global campaign #SomeoneLikeMeSG for young people to revolutionise their own sex education.
"Someone Like Me" simply says that you're not alone in this situation, because HIV could happen to anyone.
I've also had the same worries before, and it's so difficult to chuck these worries aside sometimes. It can be pressurizing before sex, and it can also be after it happens.
Why? During your first time, you'd have a million worries on whether you look and smell good, what are the right things to do and say etc... And after that, you'd start worrying of how the other party feels, or what's gonna happen if anything happens.
Well, just to let you know that it's absolutely normal.
So anyway, a few of the other bloggers from Gushcloud, and myself have come up with a video that speaks more about what I've just mentioned above, watch it! (Especially if you didn't really get what I wrote.)
Take a picture of yourself with a World AIDS Day message (same as what I did above) and share it on your Instagram/Facebook/Twitter to create awareness to World AIDS Day with the hashtag #SomeoneLikeMeSG.
By doing so, YOU can win a pair of tickets to attend the World AIDS Day (WAD) party at Butter Factory on the 30th of November! After posting, leave a comment below with your Facebook/Instagram/Twitter handle and your details and I’ll pick one lucky winner!
Myself as well as many other influencers will be going as well so catch you guys there!
I wish that all of you learnt some interesting information you never knew from this post!
Lets all work together to make this world a place free from HIV.
Check out their facebook page ( here) for more details! Labels: Campaigns/Engagements, Durex, Event Coverage, Rants, World AIDS day
World AIDS Day
Friday, November 22, 2013 | 11:07 AM | 0commentsHave any of you ever been really pressurized to have premarital sex? Or have you done it and is concerned of the repercussions? Well, all I wanna say is... You're not alone this time round.
Over the years, I've noticed how situations like these are becoming more and more common amongst teenagers. A question that rings in the minds of teenagers everywhere is, "when is the right time to have sex?"
Although I don't follow the Christian belief, I'm aware that it's only appropriate to have post-marriage sex. In fact, that's how it's actually supposed to be.
Sex is said to be something really precious and should only be given to someone who you really love and trust.
Haha, okay enough with all the preaching. I know that's no longer the case in this generation; usually from the age of 15-19.
Let's be realistic here. Sex is pleasure, pleasure is to have sex. That's how majority of the people around my age feel. And as much as it seems like it's a deadly sin, it's actually pretty universal. At least to me, I actually noticed a vast increment on the number of teenagers being involved in it over the years.
When I was in primary school, even the word "sex" was a no-no, as if you could lose your virginity just by saying it. And when I got into sec school, it scares me every now and then at the number of people who were no longer virgins.
THEN, when I got into Pre-U... it's like... a norm/trend. WOW.
Well, I'm not encouraging it, neither am I saying I'm against it. In fact, I'm absolutely cool with it.
BUT PLEASE, for god's sake... Don't ever do it just because everyone around you is doing so! That'll probably be one of your biggest regrets in life.
Back to the question - Have you actually thought through what the consequences are before allowing it to take place?
Premarital sex is usually the cause of STIs (sexually transmitted infections), teen pregnancy, and deep emotions of regret.
STIs flourish in a society of premarital sex, where teens have many sex partners.
Simple. If society has the power to pressurize teens to have premarital sex, it has to be able to educate them about the dangers of it too.
After doing some research... Here are some recent data on:
1) HIV/AIDS among people in Singapore
In 2012, another 469 Singapore residents were newly reported of HIV infection. About 93% of the new cases were males and 7% were females.
Nearly 90% of these cases reported in 2012 were between the ages of 20-59, with 63% being single, 23% married and 10% were divorced/separated.
This brings the total number of HIV infected Singapore residents to 5,775 as of end 2012. Of the people infected, 61% with HIV do not have the virus under control.
2) Most common ways of being infected? How do people get infected?
There are 3 modes of HIV transmission:
1) Blood Transfusion;
2) Unprotected Penetrative Sex (UPS);
3) Mother to Baby during pregnancy and during delivery.
3) What should I do to avoid infection?
You can practice ‘ABCD’: (A) Abstinence, (B) being faithful, (C) correct and consistent use of condoms and (D) early detection. These principles are relevant for everyone regardless of the risk group they belong to.
4) How long can I live with HIV? If I have AIDS, how long can I live?
People living with HIV can live long and healthy lives so long as they seek medical care, look after themselves and live life positively.
5) What should I do if I know that someone has HIV or AIDS?
Act normally. HIV cannot be transmitted through handshake, hug, sharing food, kissing, or sharing household utensils, etc. The biggest challenge for people living with HIV is stigma and discrimination.
.
.
.
I guess one of the things that we all have to face eventually would be the dilemma on whether to put on a condom during sexual intercourse or not, simple due to a the mindset - "Nah, it's fine... Nothing will happen to me."
Well, what I've to say is... Avoid the hesitance, it's always better to be safe than sorry. Like they always say, prevention is way better than cure. No one could save your life for a wrong decision you make.
HIV is an epidemic in the world today because of unprotected sex. I'm not saying you'll be completely safe just cos you put on a condom, I'm just saying that it would decrease the chances of you being infected.
Remember how I mentioned that you won't be in this alone in the earlier part? Durex came up with a global campaign #SomeoneLikeMeSG for young people to revolutionise their own sex education.
"Someone Like Me" simply says that you're not alone in this situation, because HIV could happen to anyone.
I've also had the same worries before, and it's so difficult to chuck these worries aside sometimes. It can be pressurizing before sex, and it can also be after it happens.
Why? During your first time, you'd have a million worries on whether you look and smell good, what are the right things to do and say etc... And after that, you'd start worrying of how the other party feels, or what's gonna happen if anything happens.
Well, just to let you know that it's absolutely normal.
So anyway, a few of the other bloggers from Gushcloud, and myself have come up with a video that speaks more about what I've just mentioned above, watch it! (Especially if you didn't really get what I wrote.)
Take a picture of yourself with a World AIDS Day message (same as what I did above) and share it on your Instagram/Facebook/Twitter to create awareness to World AIDS Day with the hashtag #SomeoneLikeMeSG.
By doing so, YOU can win a pair of tickets to attend the World AIDS Day (WAD) party at Butter Factory on the 30th of November! After posting, leave a comment below with your Facebook/Instagram/Twitter handle and your details and I’ll pick one lucky winner!
Myself as well as many other influencers will be going as well so catch you guys there!
I wish that all of you learnt some interesting information you never knew from this post!
Lets all work together to make this world a place free from HIV.
Check out their facebook page ( here) for more details! Labels: Campaigns/Engagements, Durex, Event Coverage, Rants, World AIDS day
ABOUT ME
Hey there! I share about anything and everything here. You can choose to leave, but I think you should get to know me a little more before you pass your judgement. Check out my FAQ section if it helps.
Who are you?
I'm Naomi, better known as Naomi Neo, and I'm born on the 25th of January 1996. I don't have any siblings, but I'm grateful to have the best parents in the world, who love me unconditionally, and a best friend Trixy who's been there for me for the past 5 years. Currently titled as the youngest "Celebrity Blogger" under my management, Gushcloud - With approximately 124k likes & followers on my Facebook profile and page, 80k followers on twitter and 116k on Instagram currently.
What are you known for?
Honestly, I've no idea what am I known for in majority's eyes, but here's what I presume and hope to be recognised for - I've been writing on all my social platforms since 2009, and got kind of known from writing my thoughts and views on Facebook. My first blog post that went viral was an entry dedicated to my good friend back then, titled "Mothers," in late 2010. Noticing the positive results, I decided to take blogging a little more seriously in 2011. Since then, I've been told that my posts were relatable and inspiring to many, which hence, got me to where I am today.
How well to do is your family? You seem rather spoilt.
I think I'm just average and if you think I'm wealthy rich and spoilt, you're so wrong. I mean yes, my parents do pamper me cos I'm the only child, but I've never taken their money since 2013. And I pay for all my clothes, accessories, make up and 90% of my daily necessities from the money I earn.
What are your stats?
I'm a UK 4 or 6, I've been stuck between 38kg - 40kg. Since I've never really talked about my height, you can deduce I'm exceptionally short and I'm not proud of it - So if you know it, good for you. If you don't, too bad I'm not revealing it. :p
Are you single?
Yes I am. My last relationship was in 2013, and I'm not seeing anyone at the moment.
Do you photoshop your pictures?
No, I don't. Cos I honestly have no idea how to use that crazily complexed software. Ok, it's not very complicated I suppose. I'm just god damn lazy. I only use it to design my texts etc. However, I've been using PicMonkey to edit my pictures. Yeah I know, the main question's still back to whether I "beautify" myself or not. Er, I've no idea what's up with people constantly harping on this issue. The last time I claimed that I don't, was probably in 2012 (which I really didn't back then) But along the way, I figured it was necessary to "upgrade" myself and learn how to. If I can't do plastic surgery, at least make my pictures look chio what. If you know how to, question is, WHY NOT? And, don't you guys wanna see nice pictures too?!?! However I'd like to emphasise that - I do not beautify myself in all my pictures. I only do so when I feel the need to. And 3/4 of the time, I only make adjustments to my gigantic, elephant legs WHICH I admit, I'm very insecure about. So don't tell me my legs are damn nice la, cos some pictures are deceiving. Anyway, I've tons of videos everywhere... Judge for yourself?
Did you have any plastic surgery done?
No I didn't. Firstly, I could not afford to. Secondly, even if I do have the money, my parents are definitely not open to the idea. Thirdly, if I have the money and my parents' consent... OH PLEASE, I would have made myself look a zillion times better than how I am now. So some of you may ask, why is it that I have parallel eyelids. I've mentioned this before, but since some of you are too lazy to find out the truth - Fyi, I am born with double eyelids to begin with, I just wanted to have parallel instead of tapered eyelids. And in case you're really sensitive about it, I'm not saying tapered's not nice... It's just personal preference. In case you don't know what I'm talking about...
So yeah, I tried using eyelid tapes for about 6 months in 2011, and miraculously, have permanent parallel lids since then. I think I'm really lucky. Why do I say so? Cos it doesn't work for everyone.
Don't you think it's better to be natural?
Unfortunately, not everyone's blessed with natural beauty. And even though I've never claimed to be ugly, I've never claimed to be pretty by nature either. I won't deny I've been rather extravagant when it comes to the amount of money I spend on things to beautify my physical appearance, cos sadly, it is important to look good in this society today. You can read more on my views about physical appearance (here). And I don't see anything wrong with wanting to look good or better. Everybody wants to. If you tell me you value natural beauty, I'm cool with it, but if you tell me about your self-righteous logic on how it's wrong to enhance your appearance... Fuck you, go marry a plant since you like it natural.
Don't you think it's better to be natural?
Unfortunately, not everyone's blessed with natural beauty. And even though I've never claimed to be ugly, I've never claimed to be pretty by nature either. I won't deny I've been rather extravagant when it comes to the amount of money I spend on things to beautify my physical appearance, cos sadly, it is important to look good in this society today. You can read more on my views about physical appearance (here). And I don't see anything wrong with wanting to look good or better. Everybody wants to. If you tell me you value natural beauty, I'm cool with it, but if you tell me about your self-righteous logic on how it's wrong to enhance your appearance... Fuck you, go marry a plant since you like it natural.
Are you insecure about your looks?
Yes I am, to a certain extent. I believe you would too, if you have a hundred people reminding you about your flaws every single day. But the thing is, I love myself. So I've accepted that's it's fine not to be perfect.
Do you think you're attention seeking?
Most ridiculous question ever. My question to you is, are you not? This is probably my millionth time saying this, but I think everyone seeks for attention. The only thing that differentiates each of us would be the miles we would travel for it. From a level of - I want attention to Kim Kardashian, it's just a matter of fact how much you want it. And I see absolutely nothing wrong with it unless you're doing something despicable, and harming someone to your own benefits. Besides, no matter how much I love it - It may sound ironic, but I hate unnecessary attention. I only like it when it's for something I worked hard to gain. If you know me well enough, I'm not the kind who would go nude just to get myself to where I want. (Just an example)
How do you deal with your haters?
I've been receiving nasty comments since the day I had a blog, in 2007. I've seen the worst, and it came to a point where it amuses me, because I actually get to find out things I didn't know about myself. I used to care so much, I would cry myself to bed on most nights and I even had issues stepping out of my house at a period of time. However, it took me years to realise how stupid it is to reciprocate to what people who don't me have to say, especially stories/rumours they fabricate. I'm fine with constructive criticisms because I've learnt to take it the positive way - Helping me to improve and get better. Of course it still pisses me off at times when I see untrue stuff about me circulated around by my haters, and I'd either ignore it (if it's nothing too serious) or address it, in other words, stand up for myself (if I find a need to.) And when I ignore it, I don't look at it in a way where I'm a coward or I admit to it - I just find it a waste of time to acknowledge the existence of these people, when most of them are just dying to get my response from their juvenile remarks. Yet when I retaliate, (which I rarely do these days) I only do so when something's getting out of hand. Like if it's tarnishing my reputation or sort. After all, I'm a girl. And I wouldn't "just ignore it" if it affects my name. If I don't stand up for myself, who would? Then again, I don't think that means I care about my haters - I just care about myself enough to want to shut your mouth. Besides, I can stop 1, 2 or 3 people from talking about me, but how many times can I do so? Fact is, you can't please everyone. So it's either you focus on what you have, or waste your life by dwelling on what you don't. And for those friends who decided to leave and hate me for what others have to say? Here's a big... THANK YOU. Haha, if it wasn't for you, I wouldn't have realised who my real friends were.
Do you think you deserve what you have now?
Honestly, I've always felt that I don't in a way, cos of how affected I used to be about what people have to say - "There are better looking people out there," "You are not good enough!" etc. However, I've came to a realisation that it's impossible to be the best. Cos there will always be someone better, no matter how good you think you are. And as long as I think I've done my best, I don't see why I don't deserve to be where I am today. I've worked so hard for the things I have, and it's not like everything I have is an overnight success. So too bad if you beg to differ and think that a) I'm only here due to my looks, which I think is completely senseless, cos if it was just about my looks, I wouldn't have been around after so long - Taking into consideration, the ever-rising number of good-looking people there are today. b) it's bcos of what I write, cos I definitely won't claim to be the best writer. Somehow it's still a mystery to me why people still read my blog until today. c) and it's probably cos you don't know me well enough. I definitely agree that someone out there deserves this so much more than I do, but I guess it's true that life's unfair, and I'm sorry I have no control over it.
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