One of the easiest word, with the most sophisticated definition.
So well what's love to you guys? I guess to me, love is like an investment. You've to invest a huge amount of effort, time, maybe money at times... Yet you've to risk having nothing back in return. In worse scenarios, you'd even lose whatever you had initially, and that alone might probably be strong enough to scar you for life and stop you from ever believing in love again.
You either become stronger or weaker after hurting.
Personal experience, skip this part if you want to.
For me, I wasn't that tough at heart to put myself through all these stupid pain once more, I experienced it more than three times and I guess it was enough to build up those walls around me. I've learned not to entrust my heart to someone that easily anymore. Take it as I'm really selfish, to shut myself down and have prejudice against all guys just because of the past. But well, I'm drowned in fatigue; the languor of having to put my happiness in jeopardy. Until today, I have not managed to find someone that's able to replace the love I once had. I've been searching for that same old feeling, but it seems like we can all only truly love one person, once in our entire lives, either that or I might not have met my Mr.Right yet.
As the saying goes, it's better to have no one than to be with the wrong one. I'm aware of the fact that half of me is still held back by the past, and I'm still unable to move forward. However, neither am I overwhelmed with keenness to get my heart attached or take the gamble for another broken heart. Cos it had been smashed, thrown, stabbed, stolen and disintegrated. I guess it's close to impossible to give it out when it's not back in a whole yet.
I'm pretty terrified. I still believe, after hitting rock bottom so many times, true happiness would find it's way to me one day. I've stopped searching, for I know it would come naturally, even if it doesn't... Who says we can't live without a soulmate? Time would heal all wounds. I'm sure that I'm not the only person who faced all these shit before nor have I gone through the worst, for what I've been through might just be some minor setbacks in life. But well... It's ruining my impression on all guys, and if it continues I think I'll triple the chance of having more wrinkles in future. -Rewritten from one of my formspring replies about 7months back.
So this part would be more of my personal opinions on love.
Before I start, I've to make a disclaimer that I'm not trying to act like some love guru or shit, just sharing my thoughts ok!
Doesn't it suck at times to realize you guys weren't meant for each other after placing your heart, your mind, your soul and everything in. It's like, "what the...... fuaaack is this?! You fucken fate, you allowed me to meet him/her then you end up telling me we can never be together?! Fuuuuuu. If that's the case, why did you even bring us together in the first place?? TOTAL SENSELESS." Ikr, things always cork up. Well, but in love everyone come and go. We can't expect everyone to stay forever, whether they remain alive or not when they leave...
Girls: Well, I guess every girl has their own ideal macho guy. As for me, I just seek for guys that are able to give us a very strong sense of security, guys that are reliable/trustworthy. But after all, what matters most is your love towards him I guess.
I must confess, girls may have a million and one points to their perfect guy. BUT, the thing about girls... They can easily settle down for any guy that they love even if he doesn't fullfil all her requirements.
Things like...
Are just really superficial things that every girl yearns for.
& yea, girls may be hell sensitive, unreasonable, annoying, naggy, hard to please at times... But guys, have you ever thought that blaming a girl for acting this way is like blaming her for loving you too deeply?
Of course I'm aware of certain handful of girls that are just fucking demanding in terms of their personality. And as a girl, I find myself really indecisive and fickle minded too, which I agree is pretty annoying. Girl: *Upset* Guy: "Are you okay? What's wrong?" Girl: "Ya I'm alright, nothing." Guy: "Okay then." Girl: WHY DIDN'T YOU PERSIST ON ASKING?! You idiot, I'm not okay!!!! *Gets mad*
Admit it girls, you know how weird you are at times, to the extend you feel so fucked up on your own. Blame it on girls for not being straightforward, for giving hints all the time... Blame it on guys for being too shallow, for not being able to see through us. ONE WORD, COMMUNICATION.
Seriously, talking things out in a relationship is like fucking important. If you wanna hint your boy all day and get pissed when he doesn't get you... Then you should slap yourself in the face. GUYS WILL NOT UNDERSTAND WHAT YOU WANT, UNLESS YOU SAY IT, period.
Guys: What I want to say is... Please use the word "love" wisely. Sometimes, just because of your careless act of flirting, can lead to a whole load of misunderstandings. If you don't like her, if you don't plan to get with her, make sure you tell her so. Don't have that mindset that it will hurt her.
Seriously...
Don't you think it will probably hurt her MORE if she finds out later that you don't, after you led her on?! Please, don't use the word love like how you use your toilet paper; Do all that bullshit and flush it down the bowl as if nothing had happened. Be RESPONSIBLE.
Yea, of course I'm aware not all guys are douche bags, and there are girls who are like that too. SO before you start calling me sexist or whatever shit, shut up and listen... If you wanna get into a relationship, be prepared to commit and lose at least 50% of your freedom. If you're not ready, STAY THE FUCK SINGLE. Simple as that. Don't cheat, don't play, don't mingle when you're attached, for god's sake!
Ok, I don't wanna make this post too long. I just wanna last mention the word CHERISH. C'mon, if you met a guy/girl that's able to tahan all your flaws and horrible temper, thank lord and stop asking for more. Learn to accept them for who they are if you really love them and don't take them for granted.
Everyone has their own tolerance level, don't regret when it's too late. Don't cry and rant all day when they leave if you're the one who pushed them away.
The thing about girls, they are often insecure about their looks, love, friendship and all. So guys, as your role of being a good boyfriend, be nice and constantly remind her of how beautiful she is, and how much you love her. Some girls on the surface may look strong, but in fact every girl has their vulnerable side to them. Simple words can hurt a lot.
Not all girls are materialistic, it's not always about the big diamonds and money, sometimes it's purely sincerity and the thought that counts. Put in the effort to make your girl feel like the only princess you'll go for when there are a million other hotter chicks out there.
Girls, on your hand, sometimes all it takes is to show your appreciation towards him, and learn to be understanding. Guys LOVE understanding girls. If he didn't lose your trust before, don't make him feel like a criminal.
How to move on from breakups, OR leave the old one behind and start anew with the next one that's able to complete your life? - Stay tuned! Next topic entry.
Spent my first Saturday of the year with fiddyyyyy. Ok, I went to longboard around pasir ris~ And we went to star gaze at night!!!! WHOOOO. Awesome time. Ok, shouldn't strain your eyes any further! Will update again soon after my photoshoot on Thursday! Till then.
One of the easiest word, with the most sophisticated definition.
So well what's love to you guys? I guess to me, love is like an investment. You've to invest a huge amount of effort, time, maybe money at times... Yet you've to risk having nothing back in return. In worse scenarios, you'd even lose whatever you had initially, and that alone might probably be strong enough to scar you for life and stop you from ever believing in love again.
You either become stronger or weaker after hurting.
Personal experience, skip this part if you want to.
For me, I wasn't that tough at heart to put myself through all these stupid pain once more, I experienced it more than three times and I guess it was enough to build up those walls around me. I've learned not to entrust my heart to someone that easily anymore. Take it as I'm really selfish, to shut myself down and have prejudice against all guys just because of the past. But well, I'm drowned in fatigue; the languor of having to put my happiness in jeopardy. Until today, I have not managed to find someone that's able to replace the love I once had. I've been searching for that same old feeling, but it seems like we can all only truly love one person, once in our entire lives, either that or I might not have met my Mr.Right yet.
As the saying goes, it's better to have no one than to be with the wrong one. I'm aware of the fact that half of me is still held back by the past, and I'm still unable to move forward. However, neither am I overwhelmed with keenness to get my heart attached or take the gamble for another broken heart. Cos it had been smashed, thrown, stabbed, stolen and disintegrated. I guess it's close to impossible to give it out when it's not back in a whole yet.
I'm pretty terrified. I still believe, after hitting rock bottom so many times, true happiness would find it's way to me one day. I've stopped searching, for I know it would come naturally, even if it doesn't... Who says we can't live without a soulmate? Time would heal all wounds. I'm sure that I'm not the only person who faced all these shit before nor have I gone through the worst, for what I've been through might just be some minor setbacks in life. But well... It's ruining my impression on all guys, and if it continues I think I'll triple the chance of having more wrinkles in future. -Rewritten from one of my formspring replies about 7months back.
So this part would be more of my personal opinions on love.
Before I start, I've to make a disclaimer that I'm not trying to act like some love guru or shit, just sharing my thoughts ok!
Doesn't it suck at times to realize you guys weren't meant for each other after placing your heart, your mind, your soul and everything in. It's like, "what the...... fuaaack is this?! You fucken fate, you allowed me to meet him/her then you end up telling me we can never be together?! Fuuuuuu. If that's the case, why did you even bring us together in the first place?? TOTAL SENSELESS." Ikr, things always cork up. Well, but in love everyone come and go. We can't expect everyone to stay forever, whether they remain alive or not when they leave...
Girls: Well, I guess every girl has their own ideal macho guy. As for me, I just seek for guys that are able to give us a very strong sense of security, guys that are reliable/trustworthy. But after all, what matters most is your love towards him I guess.
I must confess, girls may have a million and one points to their perfect guy. BUT, the thing about girls... They can easily settle down for any guy that they love even if he doesn't fullfil all her requirements.
Things like...
Are just really superficial things that every girl yearns for.
& yea, girls may be hell sensitive, unreasonable, annoying, naggy, hard to please at times... But guys, have you ever thought that blaming a girl for acting this way is like blaming her for loving you too deeply?
Of course I'm aware of certain handful of girls that are just fucking demanding in terms of their personality. And as a girl, I find myself really indecisive and fickle minded too, which I agree is pretty annoying. Girl: *Upset* Guy: "Are you okay? What's wrong?" Girl: "Ya I'm alright, nothing." Guy: "Okay then." Girl: WHY DIDN'T YOU PERSIST ON ASKING?! You idiot, I'm not okay!!!! *Gets mad*
Admit it girls, you know how weird you are at times, to the extend you feel so fucked up on your own. Blame it on girls for not being straightforward, for giving hints all the time... Blame it on guys for being too shallow, for not being able to see through us. ONE WORD, COMMUNICATION.
Seriously, talking things out in a relationship is like fucking important. If you wanna hint your boy all day and get pissed when he doesn't get you... Then you should slap yourself in the face. GUYS WILL NOT UNDERSTAND WHAT YOU WANT, UNLESS YOU SAY IT, period.
Guys: What I want to say is... Please use the word "love" wisely. Sometimes, just because of your careless act of flirting, can lead to a whole load of misunderstandings. If you don't like her, if you don't plan to get with her, make sure you tell her so. Don't have that mindset that it will hurt her.
Seriously...
Don't you think it will probably hurt her MORE if she finds out later that you don't, after you led her on?! Please, don't use the word love like how you use your toilet paper; Do all that bullshit and flush it down the bowl as if nothing had happened. Be RESPONSIBLE.
Yea, of course I'm aware not all guys are douche bags, and there are girls who are like that too. SO before you start calling me sexist or whatever shit, shut up and listen... If you wanna get into a relationship, be prepared to commit and lose at least 50% of your freedom. If you're not ready, STAY THE FUCK SINGLE. Simple as that. Don't cheat, don't play, don't mingle when you're attached, for god's sake!
Ok, I don't wanna make this post too long. I just wanna last mention the word CHERISH. C'mon, if you met a guy/girl that's able to tahan all your flaws and horrible temper, thank lord and stop asking for more. Learn to accept them for who they are if you really love them and don't take them for granted.
Everyone has their own tolerance level, don't regret when it's too late. Don't cry and rant all day when they leave if you're the one who pushed them away.
The thing about girls, they are often insecure about their looks, love, friendship and all. So guys, as your role of being a good boyfriend, be nice and constantly remind her of how beautiful she is, and how much you love her. Some girls on the surface may look strong, but in fact every girl has their vulnerable side to them. Simple words can hurt a lot.
Not all girls are materialistic, it's not always about the big diamonds and money, sometimes it's purely sincerity and the thought that counts. Put in the effort to make your girl feel like the only princess you'll go for when there are a million other hotter chicks out there.
Girls, on your hand, sometimes all it takes is to show your appreciation towards him, and learn to be understanding. Guys LOVE understanding girls. If he didn't lose your trust before, don't make him feel like a criminal.
How to move on from breakups, OR leave the old one behind and start anew with the next one that's able to complete your life? - Stay tuned! Next topic entry.
Spent my first Saturday of the year with fiddyyyyy. Ok, I went to longboard around pasir ris~ And we went to star gaze at night!!!! WHOOOO. Awesome time. Ok, shouldn't strain your eyes any further! Will update again soon after my photoshoot on Thursday! Till then.
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Who are you?
I'm Naomi, better known as Naomi Neo, and I'm born on the 25th of January 1996. I don't have any siblings, but I'm grateful to have the best parents in the world, who love me unconditionally, and a best friend Trixy who's been there for me for the past 5 years. Currently titled as the youngest "Celebrity Blogger" under my management, Gushcloud - With approximately 124k likes & followers on my Facebook profile and page, 80k followers on twitter and 116k on Instagram currently.
What are you known for?
Honestly, I've no idea what am I known for in majority's eyes, but here's what I presume and hope to be recognised for - I've been writing on all my social platforms since 2009, and got kind of known from writing my thoughts and views on Facebook. My first blog post that went viral was an entry dedicated to my good friend back then, titled "Mothers," in late 2010. Noticing the positive results, I decided to take blogging a little more seriously in 2011. Since then, I've been told that my posts were relatable and inspiring to many, which hence, got me to where I am today.
How well to do is your family? You seem rather spoilt.
I think I'm just average and if you think I'm wealthy rich and spoilt, you're so wrong. I mean yes, my parents do pamper me cos I'm the only child, but I've never taken their money since 2013. And I pay for all my clothes, accessories, make up and 90% of my daily necessities from the money I earn.
What are your stats?
I'm a UK 4 or 6, I've been stuck between 38kg - 40kg. Since I've never really talked about my height, you can deduce I'm exceptionally short and I'm not proud of it - So if you know it, good for you. If you don't, too bad I'm not revealing it. :p
Are you single?
Yes I am. My last relationship was in 2013, and I'm not seeing anyone at the moment.
Do you photoshop your pictures?
No, I don't. Cos I honestly have no idea how to use that crazily complexed software. Ok, it's not very complicated I suppose. I'm just god damn lazy. I only use it to design my texts etc. However, I've been using PicMonkey to edit my pictures. Yeah I know, the main question's still back to whether I "beautify" myself or not. Er, I've no idea what's up with people constantly harping on this issue. The last time I claimed that I don't, was probably in 2012 (which I really didn't back then) But along the way, I figured it was necessary to "upgrade" myself and learn how to. If I can't do plastic surgery, at least make my pictures look chio what. If you know how to, question is, WHY NOT? And, don't you guys wanna see nice pictures too?!?! However I'd like to emphasise that - I do not beautify myself in all my pictures. I only do so when I feel the need to. And 3/4 of the time, I only make adjustments to my gigantic, elephant legs WHICH I admit, I'm very insecure about. So don't tell me my legs are damn nice la, cos some pictures are deceiving. Anyway, I've tons of videos everywhere... Judge for yourself?
Did you have any plastic surgery done?
No I didn't. Firstly, I could not afford to. Secondly, even if I do have the money, my parents are definitely not open to the idea. Thirdly, if I have the money and my parents' consent... OH PLEASE, I would have made myself look a zillion times better than how I am now. So some of you may ask, why is it that I have parallel eyelids. I've mentioned this before, but since some of you are too lazy to find out the truth - Fyi, I am born with double eyelids to begin with, I just wanted to have parallel instead of tapered eyelids. And in case you're really sensitive about it, I'm not saying tapered's not nice... It's just personal preference. In case you don't know what I'm talking about...
So yeah, I tried using eyelid tapes for about 6 months in 2011, and miraculously, have permanent parallel lids since then. I think I'm really lucky. Why do I say so? Cos it doesn't work for everyone.
Don't you think it's better to be natural?
Unfortunately, not everyone's blessed with natural beauty. And even though I've never claimed to be ugly, I've never claimed to be pretty by nature either. I won't deny I've been rather extravagant when it comes to the amount of money I spend on things to beautify my physical appearance, cos sadly, it is important to look good in this society today. You can read more on my views about physical appearance (here). And I don't see anything wrong with wanting to look good or better. Everybody wants to. If you tell me you value natural beauty, I'm cool with it, but if you tell me about your self-righteous logic on how it's wrong to enhance your appearance... Fuck you, go marry a plant since you like it natural.
Don't you think it's better to be natural?
Unfortunately, not everyone's blessed with natural beauty. And even though I've never claimed to be ugly, I've never claimed to be pretty by nature either. I won't deny I've been rather extravagant when it comes to the amount of money I spend on things to beautify my physical appearance, cos sadly, it is important to look good in this society today. You can read more on my views about physical appearance (here). And I don't see anything wrong with wanting to look good or better. Everybody wants to. If you tell me you value natural beauty, I'm cool with it, but if you tell me about your self-righteous logic on how it's wrong to enhance your appearance... Fuck you, go marry a plant since you like it natural.
Are you insecure about your looks?
Yes I am, to a certain extent. I believe you would too, if you have a hundred people reminding you about your flaws every single day. But the thing is, I love myself. So I've accepted that's it's fine not to be perfect.
Do you think you're attention seeking?
Most ridiculous question ever. My question to you is, are you not? This is probably my millionth time saying this, but I think everyone seeks for attention. The only thing that differentiates each of us would be the miles we would travel for it. From a level of - I want attention to Kim Kardashian, it's just a matter of fact how much you want it. And I see absolutely nothing wrong with it unless you're doing something despicable, and harming someone to your own benefits. Besides, no matter how much I love it - It may sound ironic, but I hate unnecessary attention. I only like it when it's for something I worked hard to gain. If you know me well enough, I'm not the kind who would go nude just to get myself to where I want. (Just an example)
How do you deal with your haters?
I've been receiving nasty comments since the day I had a blog, in 2007. I've seen the worst, and it came to a point where it amuses me, because I actually get to find out things I didn't know about myself. I used to care so much, I would cry myself to bed on most nights and I even had issues stepping out of my house at a period of time. However, it took me years to realise how stupid it is to reciprocate to what people who don't me have to say, especially stories/rumours they fabricate. I'm fine with constructive criticisms because I've learnt to take it the positive way - Helping me to improve and get better. Of course it still pisses me off at times when I see untrue stuff about me circulated around by my haters, and I'd either ignore it (if it's nothing too serious) or address it, in other words, stand up for myself (if I find a need to.) And when I ignore it, I don't look at it in a way where I'm a coward or I admit to it - I just find it a waste of time to acknowledge the existence of these people, when most of them are just dying to get my response from their juvenile remarks. Yet when I retaliate, (which I rarely do these days) I only do so when something's getting out of hand. Like if it's tarnishing my reputation or sort. After all, I'm a girl. And I wouldn't "just ignore it" if it affects my name. If I don't stand up for myself, who would? Then again, I don't think that means I care about my haters - I just care about myself enough to want to shut your mouth. Besides, I can stop 1, 2 or 3 people from talking about me, but how many times can I do so? Fact is, you can't please everyone. So it's either you focus on what you have, or waste your life by dwelling on what you don't. And for those friends who decided to leave and hate me for what others have to say? Here's a big... THANK YOU. Haha, if it wasn't for you, I wouldn't have realised who my real friends were.
Do you think you deserve what you have now?
Honestly, I've always felt that I don't in a way, cos of how affected I used to be about what people have to say - "There are better looking people out there," "You are not good enough!" etc. However, I've came to a realisation that it's impossible to be the best. Cos there will always be someone better, no matter how good you think you are. And as long as I think I've done my best, I don't see why I don't deserve to be where I am today. I've worked so hard for the things I have, and it's not like everything I have is an overnight success. So too bad if you beg to differ and think that a) I'm only here due to my looks, which I think is completely senseless, cos if it was just about my looks, I wouldn't have been around after so long - Taking into consideration, the ever-rising number of good-looking people there are today. b) it's bcos of what I write, cos I definitely won't claim to be the best writer. Somehow it's still a mystery to me why people still read my blog until today. c) and it's probably cos you don't know me well enough. I definitely agree that someone out there deserves this so much more than I do, but I guess it's true that life's unfair, and I'm sorry I have no control over it.
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