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Expectations.
Here’s a little something about me and my expectations…
It really isn't easy to deal with expectations. Friends, your lover and especially your parents'.
And it's worse being the only child in the family where all eyes and hopes are on you.
You feel the pressure every now and then, whether you’re at home or hanging out with your friends.
You feel the need to do well so you don’t disappoint anyone; your parents who put in so much effort in you and your education, your teachers who invested so much time to go that extra mile just to make sure that you understand your learning. Not forgetting... yourself.
I have really high expectations for myself, and maybe because I'm pretty much like a perfectionist, I always have to do things at my best, otherwise I won't even bother.
& I get really stressed up and frustrated easily whenever I can't carry out the tasks given to me. Like what my parents say, sometimes, I give myself that pressure more than anyone else could.
At times when I study pass my limit, I start to feel a whirl of emotions kicking in (only at the wrong time)!
Somehow, this is when I realize that I could put some constructive methods into good use. Be it studies, stress, BGR and whatnots.
- Calming down always, always work! When you find yourself feeling stressed, stop doing what you’re doing for a while, start breathing and calm yourself down. What I’d like to do is it step away from my books, close my eyes and count to ten! IT’S MAGIC!! :D
- Think of ALL the possible solutions to your problems and start listing them down. Don’t be lazy, aim for 3 solutions at least!! Your brain needs to explore more options!!
- Tell yourself that you are able to solve the issues at hand! Give yourself a pep talk, confidence is key!
- Explore ALL the possible options you have listed down, think of the PROS and CONS of each option. Draw a table! After which, select your best option and start solving your problem!
- Seek help from people you trust. It can be your bestfriends, parents, teachers or counsellors.
Whenever you feel stressed, apply COPES like me and you should find your solutions easily. Otherwise, you can also take some time off from your work and take a stroll nearby or even work out (this is what I usually do!) Remember, calm down, close your eyes and count to ten. Of course, don’t forget to breathe LOL.
If you guys noticed, I actually love skating a lot. I’d skate with my friends as much as I can, and I would spend the whole day doing so; It helps me forget my worries and stress, and it really makes me enjoy my life at the moment.
I hope that the tips I've provided are applicable to you guys and hopefully you all will be able to apply it to your life too!
Sometimes when I close my eyes when facing stress and difficult situations, I let my mind wander. I’d feel different after a minute or so, because life’s too short to not cherish what we have and what we’re going through.
Every day, every minute and second is unique! Start breathing and join me here today J
Labels: Advertorials, Campaigns/Engagements, Event Coverage, Tips N Guides
Expectations.
Friday, November 9, 2012 | 11:29 PM | 1comments
Here’s a little something about me and my expectations…
It really isn't easy to deal with expectations. Friends, your lover and especially your parents'.
And it's worse being the only child in the family where all eyes and hopes are on you.
You feel the pressure every now and then, whether you’re at home or hanging out with your friends.
You feel the need to do well so you don’t disappoint anyone; your parents who put in so much effort in you and your education, your teachers who invested so much time to go that extra mile just to make sure that you understand your learning. Not forgetting... yourself.
I have really high expectations for myself, and maybe because I'm pretty much like a perfectionist, I always have to do things at my best, otherwise I won't even bother.
& I get really stressed up and frustrated easily whenever I can't carry out the tasks given to me. Like what my parents say, sometimes, I give myself that pressure more than anyone else could.
At times when I study pass my limit, I start to feel a whirl of emotions kicking in (only at the wrong time)!
Somehow, this is when I realize that I could put some constructive methods into good use. Be it studies, stress, BGR and whatnots.
- Calming down always, always work! When you find yourself feeling stressed, stop doing what you’re doing for a while, start breathing and calm yourself down. What I’d like to do is it step away from my books, close my eyes and count to ten! IT’S MAGIC!! :D
- Think of ALL the possible solutions to your problems and start listing them down. Don’t be lazy, aim for 3 solutions at least!! Your brain needs to explore more options!!
- Tell yourself that you are able to solve the issues at hand! Give yourself a pep talk, confidence is key!
- Explore ALL the possible options you have listed down, think of the PROS and CONS of each option. Draw a table! After which, select your best option and start solving your problem!
- Seek help from people you trust. It can be your bestfriends, parents, teachers or counsellors.
Whenever you feel stressed, apply COPES like me and you should find your solutions easily. Otherwise, you can also take some time off from your work and take a stroll nearby or even work out (this is what I usually do!) Remember, calm down, close your eyes and count to ten. Of course, don’t forget to breathe LOL.
If you guys noticed, I actually love skating a lot. I’d skate with my friends as much as I can, and I would spend the whole day doing so; It helps me forget my worries and stress, and it really makes me enjoy my life at the moment.
I hope that the tips I've provided are applicable to you guys and hopefully you all will be able to apply it to your life too!
Sometimes when I close my eyes when facing stress and difficult situations, I let my mind wander. I’d feel different after a minute or so, because life’s too short to not cherish what we have and what we’re going through.
Every day, every minute and second is unique! Start breathing and join me here today J
Labels: Advertorials, Campaigns/Engagements, Event Coverage, Tips N Guides
ABOUT ME
Hey there! I share about anything and everything here. You can choose to leave, but I think you should get to know me a little more before you pass your judgement. Check out my FAQ section if it helps.
Who are you?
I'm Naomi, better known as Naomi Neo, and I'm born on the 25th of January 1996. I don't have any siblings, but I'm grateful to have the best parents in the world, who love me unconditionally, and a best friend Trixy who's been there for me for the past 5 years. Currently titled as the youngest "Celebrity Blogger" under my management, Gushcloud - With approximately 124k likes & followers on my Facebook profile and page, 80k followers on twitter and 116k on Instagram currently.
What are you known for?
Honestly, I've no idea what am I known for in majority's eyes, but here's what I presume and hope to be recognised for - I've been writing on all my social platforms since 2009, and got kind of known from writing my thoughts and views on Facebook. My first blog post that went viral was an entry dedicated to my good friend back then, titled "Mothers," in late 2010. Noticing the positive results, I decided to take blogging a little more seriously in 2011. Since then, I've been told that my posts were relatable and inspiring to many, which hence, got me to where I am today.
How well to do is your family? You seem rather spoilt.
I think I'm just average and if you think I'm wealthy rich and spoilt, you're so wrong. I mean yes, my parents do pamper me cos I'm the only child, but I've never taken their money since 2013. And I pay for all my clothes, accessories, make up and 90% of my daily necessities from the money I earn.
What are your stats?
I'm a UK 4 or 6, I've been stuck between 38kg - 40kg. Since I've never really talked about my height, you can deduce I'm exceptionally short and I'm not proud of it - So if you know it, good for you. If you don't, too bad I'm not revealing it. :p
Are you single?
Yes I am. My last relationship was in 2013, and I'm not seeing anyone at the moment.
Do you photoshop your pictures?
No, I don't. Cos I honestly have no idea how to use that crazily complexed software. Ok, it's not very complicated I suppose. I'm just god damn lazy. I only use it to design my texts etc. However, I've been using PicMonkey to edit my pictures. Yeah I know, the main question's still back to whether I "beautify" myself or not. Er, I've no idea what's up with people constantly harping on this issue. The last time I claimed that I don't, was probably in 2012 (which I really didn't back then) But along the way, I figured it was necessary to "upgrade" myself and learn how to. If I can't do plastic surgery, at least make my pictures look chio what. If you know how to, question is, WHY NOT? And, don't you guys wanna see nice pictures too?!?! However I'd like to emphasise that - I do not beautify myself in all my pictures. I only do so when I feel the need to. And 3/4 of the time, I only make adjustments to my gigantic, elephant legs WHICH I admit, I'm very insecure about. So don't tell me my legs are damn nice la, cos some pictures are deceiving. Anyway, I've tons of videos everywhere... Judge for yourself?
Did you have any plastic surgery done?
No I didn't. Firstly, I could not afford to. Secondly, even if I do have the money, my parents are definitely not open to the idea. Thirdly, if I have the money and my parents' consent... OH PLEASE, I would have made myself look a zillion times better than how I am now. So some of you may ask, why is it that I have parallel eyelids. I've mentioned this before, but since some of you are too lazy to find out the truth - Fyi, I am born with double eyelids to begin with, I just wanted to have parallel instead of tapered eyelids. And in case you're really sensitive about it, I'm not saying tapered's not nice... It's just personal preference. In case you don't know what I'm talking about...
So yeah, I tried using eyelid tapes for about 6 months in 2011, and miraculously, have permanent parallel lids since then. I think I'm really lucky. Why do I say so? Cos it doesn't work for everyone.
Don't you think it's better to be natural?
Unfortunately, not everyone's blessed with natural beauty. And even though I've never claimed to be ugly, I've never claimed to be pretty by nature either. I won't deny I've been rather extravagant when it comes to the amount of money I spend on things to beautify my physical appearance, cos sadly, it is important to look good in this society today. You can read more on my views about physical appearance (here). And I don't see anything wrong with wanting to look good or better. Everybody wants to. If you tell me you value natural beauty, I'm cool with it, but if you tell me about your self-righteous logic on how it's wrong to enhance your appearance... Fuck you, go marry a plant since you like it natural.
Don't you think it's better to be natural?
Unfortunately, not everyone's blessed with natural beauty. And even though I've never claimed to be ugly, I've never claimed to be pretty by nature either. I won't deny I've been rather extravagant when it comes to the amount of money I spend on things to beautify my physical appearance, cos sadly, it is important to look good in this society today. You can read more on my views about physical appearance (here). And I don't see anything wrong with wanting to look good or better. Everybody wants to. If you tell me you value natural beauty, I'm cool with it, but if you tell me about your self-righteous logic on how it's wrong to enhance your appearance... Fuck you, go marry a plant since you like it natural.
Are you insecure about your looks?
Yes I am, to a certain extent. I believe you would too, if you have a hundred people reminding you about your flaws every single day. But the thing is, I love myself. So I've accepted that's it's fine not to be perfect.
Do you think you're attention seeking?
Most ridiculous question ever. My question to you is, are you not? This is probably my millionth time saying this, but I think everyone seeks for attention. The only thing that differentiates each of us would be the miles we would travel for it. From a level of - I want attention to Kim Kardashian, it's just a matter of fact how much you want it. And I see absolutely nothing wrong with it unless you're doing something despicable, and harming someone to your own benefits. Besides, no matter how much I love it - It may sound ironic, but I hate unnecessary attention. I only like it when it's for something I worked hard to gain. If you know me well enough, I'm not the kind who would go nude just to get myself to where I want. (Just an example)
How do you deal with your haters?
I've been receiving nasty comments since the day I had a blog, in 2007. I've seen the worst, and it came to a point where it amuses me, because I actually get to find out things I didn't know about myself. I used to care so much, I would cry myself to bed on most nights and I even had issues stepping out of my house at a period of time. However, it took me years to realise how stupid it is to reciprocate to what people who don't me have to say, especially stories/rumours they fabricate. I'm fine with constructive criticisms because I've learnt to take it the positive way - Helping me to improve and get better. Of course it still pisses me off at times when I see untrue stuff about me circulated around by my haters, and I'd either ignore it (if it's nothing too serious) or address it, in other words, stand up for myself (if I find a need to.) And when I ignore it, I don't look at it in a way where I'm a coward or I admit to it - I just find it a waste of time to acknowledge the existence of these people, when most of them are just dying to get my response from their juvenile remarks. Yet when I retaliate, (which I rarely do these days) I only do so when something's getting out of hand. Like if it's tarnishing my reputation or sort. After all, I'm a girl. And I wouldn't "just ignore it" if it affects my name. If I don't stand up for myself, who would? Then again, I don't think that means I care about my haters - I just care about myself enough to want to shut your mouth. Besides, I can stop 1, 2 or 3 people from talking about me, but how many times can I do so? Fact is, you can't please everyone. So it's either you focus on what you have, or waste your life by dwelling on what you don't. And for those friends who decided to leave and hate me for what others have to say? Here's a big... THANK YOU. Haha, if it wasn't for you, I wouldn't have realised who my real friends were.
Do you think you deserve what you have now?
Honestly, I've always felt that I don't in a way, cos of how affected I used to be about what people have to say - "There are better looking people out there," "You are not good enough!" etc. However, I've came to a realisation that it's impossible to be the best. Cos there will always be someone better, no matter how good you think you are. And as long as I think I've done my best, I don't see why I don't deserve to be where I am today. I've worked so hard for the things I have, and it's not like everything I have is an overnight success. So too bad if you beg to differ and think that a) I'm only here due to my looks, which I think is completely senseless, cos if it was just about my looks, I wouldn't have been around after so long - Taking into consideration, the ever-rising number of good-looking people there are today. b) it's bcos of what I write, cos I definitely won't claim to be the best writer. Somehow it's still a mystery to me why people still read my blog until today. c) and it's probably cos you don't know me well enough. I definitely agree that someone out there deserves this so much more than I do, but I guess it's true that life's unfair, and I'm sorry I have no control over it.
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