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Give us some credit.
People always have something to say, it's like whether you do something right or wrong you can't avoid being judged. They expect you to be perfect, they expect you to be nice all the time. But think about it yourself, do you think you're capable of being flawless?
"Make love, not war."
Personally I always felt that this simple line can make a whole wide difference to the world if everyone are able to preach it. Well, I don't know if you guys realize this... But it's becoming quite an annoyance to me since lately on how easily things can go all viral online.
Indeed having social sites like Twitter, Facebook and all really helped many of us to catch up with each other, stay connected blablabla. but.....
Don't worry I'm not gonna conduct a lesson here on globalization, just read on. LOL.
Is it only me or the internet is really causing a lot of shit to our daily lives?
Nah neither is this entry gonna be talking about people being judgmental and all again. LOL, I ran out of words to talk about it. Cos humans are all wired in a way that we judge every single day.
To continue from where I stopped above... I mean yea, it's not like without the internet everyone's gonna be refrained from judging, but what bugs me most is being judged and hated for the stupidest things.
It's like, people can easily hate on you just bcos of things you post online. Be it a tweet, a vlog, a blog entry, a picture so on and so forth.
I bet someone out there, reading this half way must already be having a thought, somewhat like "This bitch is bullshitting again." and might have closed my page by now.
Like....
Forget about that, now comes the part that links back to the title of this entry. I often come across truck loads of tweets on random strangers (Notice why I used the term strangers) going like "Why the f*ck are people like Deekosh, Naomi Neo, Noah Yap etc getting so much attention, why do they get so many special deals when they are just normal human like us?"
Ok before I kick off, I just wanna emphasize that I'm not trying to offend anyone, and if you're offended I'm sorry in advance.
I just get really fed up when I see tweets like that.
Yes, I do agree we are all normal human beings and I do believe in equality. I get where some of you are coming from, like "All of us are the same, what makes them so special?"
But c'mon people, all of us bloggers, vloggers etc PUT IN A LOT OF EFFORT before we got to where we are today. If you think it's unfair for you, then I think it's really undeserving when some of you get all agitated on why the hell we are "specially treated."
Most of the bloggers/vloggers who I know of are still studying, yet we fork out the time and effort to write posts and make videos to "entertain" you all, (If you're not entertained by me, then... too bad. -_-)
I'm not trying to act like a big shot here or in any way bring out anything such as popularity and shit, nothing related to that. It's just that I feel we should be....
GIVEN SOME CREDIT.
We don't just get sponsors and stuff for nothing. Especially bloggers. To name some, maybe like Xiaxue, Ohsofickle, Bongqiuqiu, Pxdkitty, Speishi, Marxmae, Prettyfrowns....
Despite how we're already struggling with work or school, we still have to fret on things like; what to write for our next blog entry, what can we do to make you guys happy and all... I can bravely say most of us are pretty conscientious when it comes to our work.
Nooooo, not as if I'm making it sound like it's a chore to blog, I would say it's a labour of love. But don't you think we should be acknowledged for our endeavor?
It's really disheartening to see how some of you make us sound as though we're not even a penny-worth; like we got all these overnight without working for it. It's like working so hard for everything and no one even recognizes your effort at all.
I started blogging like some any other teen out there since 2009, and got a little more serious about my "job" some time last year. I've been sharing things based on my experiences on Twitter, Facebook and my blog of course.
And if you're wondering why, it started off simply bcos I wanted people to be able to relate, I genuinely wish that I could share my experiences and advices to people out there who needs it. Of course as time passed, I wouldn't deny it's partially due to attention as well.
But isn't that the main goal for every blogger I suppose? To achieve attention? That's how we earn a living in a way isn't it? If we don't get attention how are gonna survive in the blogsphere?
If you're gonna say that I don't even update my blog really often, at least I take the effort to constantly update my Fb and Twitter right?
& Hey, just cos I get a little more likes for my pictures on Facebook than some people, it doesn't mean that I gained all these just due to my appearance alone. In fact, I'm not even close to gorgeous, I feel really typical. (I know you're gonna judge again...)
Whatever. No one said common-looking girls can't camwhore right? That's just being utterly ridiculous, still wondering who came out with this logic whereby one must think that they are good-looking otherwise they can't take loads of pictures. -_-
FYI, I didn't started on Facebook posting just pictures of myself.
And look at the likes back then, what? Less than a 100 dude. Open your eyes wideeeeeee.
So after typing so much crap, I just want you guys to know that, there can be a million good looking people out there, but it doesn't mean that appearance is everything.
& For god's sake, don't rake up the part on models. Even so, money don't just come to them as easy as you think, they've to pose for hours in all kinds of weather... And if you watch American next top models etc, they've to go thru a lot of hell training to attain those results.
Just because it seems like what we did is effortless, it doesn't mean we really didn't go through any hardships.
I'm definitely aware of people who got popular just based on their looks and done completely nothing to deserve such attention from the crowd, but then again, who are you to judge?
Do you honestly think looks last forever? Why not just let them be? People don't just put themselves out there on the internet and expect themselves to get the attention that they yearn for. They didn't choose to be known, YOU made them known.
And if you talk about them being treated x123456789 times better than you, why not think that they also get x123456789 more hate than you do?
Furthermore, think about it, isn't it exactly the point? Since we're humans too, why do you people always expect us to be perfect? Small little faults and we get hell from you all.
I'm not saying that we lead a difficult life, but if you think that being us is easy, I hope you think twice about it; including the fact that you really have no idea how much pain and stress we've to undergo as well.
It's just like a simple example of a sweet, loving couple, do you think they build such a good relation in a day? Just bcos they look flawless, it doesn't prove that they don't fight and quarrel behind the scene. Quit assuming.
As a matter of fact, there's no such a thing as perfection. Everyone has their own story behind their smiles that you may never know of. Just bcos they don't wear their heart on their sleeve, it doesn't mean that they don't go through as much shit as you do.
Moreover, I don't see why we should get hated just bcos we're achieving something you don't, it's not like we control what people think and how they feel right?
Lastly, to conclude this post, everyone's different. There's no point in comparing who's better and who's not. I know some of you really put in a lot of effort too, yet no one recognizes it at the moment... But who says it won't in future?
We don't get what we want all the time, and trust me, fame isn't everything.
Unfortunately, this world is unfair and if I had a choice I would have taken an easier way out. Even if it's hard to swallow, you just have to deal with it.
Labels: Rants
Give us some credit.
People always have something to say, it's like whether you do something right or wrong you can't avoid being judged. They expect you to be perfect, they expect you to be nice all the time. But think about it yourself, do you think you're capable of being flawless?
"Make love, not war."
Personally I always felt that this simple line can make a whole wide difference to the world if everyone are able to preach it. Well, I don't know if you guys realize this... But it's becoming quite an annoyance to me since lately on how easily things can go all viral online.
Indeed having social sites like Twitter, Facebook and all really helped many of us to catch up with each other, stay connected blablabla. but.....
Don't worry I'm not gonna conduct a lesson here on globalization, just read on. LOL.
Is it only me or the internet is really causing a lot of shit to our daily lives?
Nah neither is this entry gonna be talking about people being judgmental and all again. LOL, I ran out of words to talk about it. Cos humans are all wired in a way that we judge every single day.
To continue from where I stopped above... I mean yea, it's not like without the internet everyone's gonna be refrained from judging, but what bugs me most is being judged and hated for the stupidest things.
It's like, people can easily hate on you just bcos of things you post online. Be it a tweet, a vlog, a blog entry, a picture so on and so forth.
I bet someone out there, reading this half way must already be having a thought, somewhat like "This bitch is bullshitting again." and might have closed my page by now.
Like....
Forget about that, now comes the part that links back to the title of this entry. I often come across truck loads of tweets on random strangers (Notice why I used the term strangers) going like "Why the f*ck are people like Deekosh, Naomi Neo, Noah Yap etc getting so much attention, why do they get so many special deals when they are just normal human like us?"
Ok before I kick off, I just wanna emphasize that I'm not trying to offend anyone, and if you're offended I'm sorry in advance.
I just get really fed up when I see tweets like that.
Yes, I do agree we are all normal human beings and I do believe in equality. I get where some of you are coming from, like "All of us are the same, what makes them so special?"
But c'mon people, all of us bloggers, vloggers etc PUT IN A LOT OF EFFORT before we got to where we are today. If you think it's unfair for you, then I think it's really undeserving when some of you get all agitated on why the hell we are "specially treated."
Most of the bloggers/vloggers who I know of are still studying, yet we fork out the time and effort to write posts and make videos to "entertain" you all, (If you're not entertained by me, then... too bad. -_-)
I'm not trying to act like a big shot here or in any way bring out anything such as popularity and shit, nothing related to that. It's just that I feel we should be....
GIVEN SOME CREDIT.
We don't just get sponsors and stuff for nothing. Especially bloggers. To name some, maybe like Xiaxue, Ohsofickle, Bongqiuqiu, Pxdkitty, Speishi, Marxmae, Prettyfrowns....
Despite how we're already struggling with work or school, we still have to fret on things like; what to write for our next blog entry, what can we do to make you guys happy and all... I can bravely say most of us are pretty conscientious when it comes to our work.
Nooooo, not as if I'm making it sound like it's a chore to blog, I would say it's a labour of love. But don't you think we should be acknowledged for our endeavor?
It's really disheartening to see how some of you make us sound as though we're not even a penny-worth; like we got all these overnight without working for it. It's like working so hard for everything and no one even recognizes your effort at all.
I started blogging like some any other teen out there since 2009, and got a little more serious about my "job" some time last year. I've been sharing things based on my experiences on Twitter, Facebook and my blog of course.
And if you're wondering why, it started off simply bcos I wanted people to be able to relate, I genuinely wish that I could share my experiences and advices to people out there who needs it. Of course as time passed, I wouldn't deny it's partially due to attention as well.
But isn't that the main goal for every blogger I suppose? To achieve attention? That's how we earn a living in a way isn't it? If we don't get attention how are gonna survive in the blogsphere?
If you're gonna say that I don't even update my blog really often, at least I take the effort to constantly update my Fb and Twitter right?
& Hey, just cos I get a little more likes for my pictures on Facebook than some people, it doesn't mean that I gained all these just due to my appearance alone. In fact, I'm not even close to gorgeous, I feel really typical. (I know you're gonna judge again...)
Whatever. No one said common-looking girls can't camwhore right? That's just being utterly ridiculous, still wondering who came out with this logic whereby one must think that they are good-looking otherwise they can't take loads of pictures. -_-
FYI, I didn't started on Facebook posting just pictures of myself.
And look at the likes back then, what? Less than a 100 dude. Open your eyes wideeeeeee.
So after typing so much crap, I just want you guys to know that, there can be a million good looking people out there, but it doesn't mean that appearance is everything.
& For god's sake, don't rake up the part on models. Even so, money don't just come to them as easy as you think, they've to pose for hours in all kinds of weather... And if you watch American next top models etc, they've to go thru a lot of hell training to attain those results.
Just because it seems like what we did is effortless, it doesn't mean we really didn't go through any hardships.
I'm definitely aware of people who got popular just based on their looks and done completely nothing to deserve such attention from the crowd, but then again, who are you to judge?
Do you honestly think looks last forever? Why not just let them be? People don't just put themselves out there on the internet and expect themselves to get the attention that they yearn for. They didn't choose to be known, YOU made them known.
And if you talk about them being treated x123456789 times better than you, why not think that they also get x123456789 more hate than you do?
Furthermore, think about it, isn't it exactly the point? Since we're humans too, why do you people always expect us to be perfect? Small little faults and we get hell from you all.
I'm not saying that we lead a difficult life, but if you think that being us is easy, I hope you think twice about it; including the fact that you really have no idea how much pain and stress we've to undergo as well.
It's just like a simple example of a sweet, loving couple, do you think they build such a good relation in a day? Just bcos they look flawless, it doesn't prove that they don't fight and quarrel behind the scene. Quit assuming.
As a matter of fact, there's no such a thing as perfection. Everyone has their own story behind their smiles that you may never know of. Just bcos they don't wear their heart on their sleeve, it doesn't mean that they don't go through as much shit as you do.
Moreover, I don't see why we should get hated just bcos we're achieving something you don't, it's not like we control what people think and how they feel right?
Lastly, to conclude this post, everyone's different. There's no point in comparing who's better and who's not. I know some of you really put in a lot of effort too, yet no one recognizes it at the moment... But who says it won't in future?
We don't get what we want all the time, and trust me, fame isn't everything.
Unfortunately, this world is unfair and if I had a choice I would have taken an easier way out. Even if it's hard to swallow, you just have to deal with it.
Labels: Rants
ABOUT ME
Hey there! I share about anything and everything here. You can choose to leave, but I think you should get to know me a little more before you pass your judgement. Check out my FAQ section if it helps.
Who are you?
I'm Naomi, better known as Naomi Neo, and I'm born on the 25th of January 1996. I don't have any siblings, but I'm grateful to have the best parents in the world, who love me unconditionally, and a best friend Trixy who's been there for me for the past 5 years. Currently titled as the youngest "Celebrity Blogger" under my management, Gushcloud - With approximately 124k likes & followers on my Facebook profile and page, 80k followers on twitter and 116k on Instagram currently.
What are you known for?
Honestly, I've no idea what am I known for in majority's eyes, but here's what I presume and hope to be recognised for - I've been writing on all my social platforms since 2009, and got kind of known from writing my thoughts and views on Facebook. My first blog post that went viral was an entry dedicated to my good friend back then, titled "Mothers," in late 2010. Noticing the positive results, I decided to take blogging a little more seriously in 2011. Since then, I've been told that my posts were relatable and inspiring to many, which hence, got me to where I am today.
How well to do is your family? You seem rather spoilt.
I think I'm just average and if you think I'm wealthy rich and spoilt, you're so wrong. I mean yes, my parents do pamper me cos I'm the only child, but I've never taken their money since 2013. And I pay for all my clothes, accessories, make up and 90% of my daily necessities from the money I earn.
What are your stats?
I'm a UK 4 or 6, I've been stuck between 38kg - 40kg. Since I've never really talked about my height, you can deduce I'm exceptionally short and I'm not proud of it - So if you know it, good for you. If you don't, too bad I'm not revealing it. :p
Are you single?
Yes I am. My last relationship was in 2013, and I'm not seeing anyone at the moment.
Do you photoshop your pictures?
No, I don't. Cos I honestly have no idea how to use that crazily complexed software. Ok, it's not very complicated I suppose. I'm just god damn lazy. I only use it to design my texts etc. However, I've been using PicMonkey to edit my pictures. Yeah I know, the main question's still back to whether I "beautify" myself or not. Er, I've no idea what's up with people constantly harping on this issue. The last time I claimed that I don't, was probably in 2012 (which I really didn't back then) But along the way, I figured it was necessary to "upgrade" myself and learn how to. If I can't do plastic surgery, at least make my pictures look chio what. If you know how to, question is, WHY NOT? And, don't you guys wanna see nice pictures too?!?! However I'd like to emphasise that - I do not beautify myself in all my pictures. I only do so when I feel the need to. And 3/4 of the time, I only make adjustments to my gigantic, elephant legs WHICH I admit, I'm very insecure about. So don't tell me my legs are damn nice la, cos some pictures are deceiving. Anyway, I've tons of videos everywhere... Judge for yourself?
Did you have any plastic surgery done?
No I didn't. Firstly, I could not afford to. Secondly, even if I do have the money, my parents are definitely not open to the idea. Thirdly, if I have the money and my parents' consent... OH PLEASE, I would have made myself look a zillion times better than how I am now. So some of you may ask, why is it that I have parallel eyelids. I've mentioned this before, but since some of you are too lazy to find out the truth - Fyi, I am born with double eyelids to begin with, I just wanted to have parallel instead of tapered eyelids. And in case you're really sensitive about it, I'm not saying tapered's not nice... It's just personal preference. In case you don't know what I'm talking about...
So yeah, I tried using eyelid tapes for about 6 months in 2011, and miraculously, have permanent parallel lids since then. I think I'm really lucky. Why do I say so? Cos it doesn't work for everyone.
Don't you think it's better to be natural?
Unfortunately, not everyone's blessed with natural beauty. And even though I've never claimed to be ugly, I've never claimed to be pretty by nature either. I won't deny I've been rather extravagant when it comes to the amount of money I spend on things to beautify my physical appearance, cos sadly, it is important to look good in this society today. You can read more on my views about physical appearance (here). And I don't see anything wrong with wanting to look good or better. Everybody wants to. If you tell me you value natural beauty, I'm cool with it, but if you tell me about your self-righteous logic on how it's wrong to enhance your appearance... Fuck you, go marry a plant since you like it natural.
Don't you think it's better to be natural?
Unfortunately, not everyone's blessed with natural beauty. And even though I've never claimed to be ugly, I've never claimed to be pretty by nature either. I won't deny I've been rather extravagant when it comes to the amount of money I spend on things to beautify my physical appearance, cos sadly, it is important to look good in this society today. You can read more on my views about physical appearance (here). And I don't see anything wrong with wanting to look good or better. Everybody wants to. If you tell me you value natural beauty, I'm cool with it, but if you tell me about your self-righteous logic on how it's wrong to enhance your appearance... Fuck you, go marry a plant since you like it natural.
Are you insecure about your looks?
Yes I am, to a certain extent. I believe you would too, if you have a hundred people reminding you about your flaws every single day. But the thing is, I love myself. So I've accepted that's it's fine not to be perfect.
Do you think you're attention seeking?
Most ridiculous question ever. My question to you is, are you not? This is probably my millionth time saying this, but I think everyone seeks for attention. The only thing that differentiates each of us would be the miles we would travel for it. From a level of - I want attention to Kim Kardashian, it's just a matter of fact how much you want it. And I see absolutely nothing wrong with it unless you're doing something despicable, and harming someone to your own benefits. Besides, no matter how much I love it - It may sound ironic, but I hate unnecessary attention. I only like it when it's for something I worked hard to gain. If you know me well enough, I'm not the kind who would go nude just to get myself to where I want. (Just an example)
How do you deal with your haters?
I've been receiving nasty comments since the day I had a blog, in 2007. I've seen the worst, and it came to a point where it amuses me, because I actually get to find out things I didn't know about myself. I used to care so much, I would cry myself to bed on most nights and I even had issues stepping out of my house at a period of time. However, it took me years to realise how stupid it is to reciprocate to what people who don't me have to say, especially stories/rumours they fabricate. I'm fine with constructive criticisms because I've learnt to take it the positive way - Helping me to improve and get better. Of course it still pisses me off at times when I see untrue stuff about me circulated around by my haters, and I'd either ignore it (if it's nothing too serious) or address it, in other words, stand up for myself (if I find a need to.) And when I ignore it, I don't look at it in a way where I'm a coward or I admit to it - I just find it a waste of time to acknowledge the existence of these people, when most of them are just dying to get my response from their juvenile remarks. Yet when I retaliate, (which I rarely do these days) I only do so when something's getting out of hand. Like if it's tarnishing my reputation or sort. After all, I'm a girl. And I wouldn't "just ignore it" if it affects my name. If I don't stand up for myself, who would? Then again, I don't think that means I care about my haters - I just care about myself enough to want to shut your mouth. Besides, I can stop 1, 2 or 3 people from talking about me, but how many times can I do so? Fact is, you can't please everyone. So it's either you focus on what you have, or waste your life by dwelling on what you don't. And for those friends who decided to leave and hate me for what others have to say? Here's a big... THANK YOU. Haha, if it wasn't for you, I wouldn't have realised who my real friends were.
Do you think you deserve what you have now?
Honestly, I've always felt that I don't in a way, cos of how affected I used to be about what people have to say - "There are better looking people out there," "You are not good enough!" etc. However, I've came to a realisation that it's impossible to be the best. Cos there will always be someone better, no matter how good you think you are. And as long as I think I've done my best, I don't see why I don't deserve to be where I am today. I've worked so hard for the things I have, and it's not like everything I have is an overnight success. So too bad if you beg to differ and think that a) I'm only here due to my looks, which I think is completely senseless, cos if it was just about my looks, I wouldn't have been around after so long - Taking into consideration, the ever-rising number of good-looking people there are today. b) it's bcos of what I write, cos I definitely won't claim to be the best writer. Somehow it's still a mystery to me why people still read my blog until today. c) and it's probably cos you don't know me well enough. I definitely agree that someone out there deserves this so much more than I do, but I guess it's true that life's unfair, and I'm sorry I have no control over it.
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