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The Thing(s) About Girls
Yes, here's the irony... I'm certainly aware that I'm a girl myself.
BUT BEFORE YOU START TRASHING THE HELL OUT OF ME...
I'm just voicing my thoughts out based on what I observe from MOST (not all) girls, which includes myself.
Despite being a girl, I really hate how we behave and deal with particular things at times. As we all know, guys and girls are wired differently. Instead of pointing out the flaws that we have to the guys out there... I believe you're expecting me to be listing the million and one reasons to side my own sex.
But nah, I'm tired of listening to the excuses we intentionally make sometimes just to get away with things.
(1) CONTRADICTION
C'mon face it, we all know how annoying girls can get when it comes to contradictory. It's like we tend to "eat" our words; The thoughts in our mind and the things we say, most of the time, do not complement each other. For instance...
Scenario 1:
When your boyfriend asks if he could hang out with his friends and not accompany you today:
Response: "Nahhhh, it's okay. I can do fine without you babe. REALLY. Just go ahead."
In reality: *Hoping he'd change his mind.*
And when he carries out his plans with his friends and left you alone:
*GETS ALL MAD AND CRANKY*
When he texts you:
*I'm gonna give him one-word replies cos I'm mad at him for leaving me alone!!!*
Yet when he asks you what's wrong and if you were okay:
*Nothing, nothing's wrong. Yea, I'm okay."
And if he doesn't get your intended message/hint:
*GETS DOUBLY MAD OR EVEN UPSET.*
As contradicting as it is.... It's like....
Isn't this situation familiar to some of you? Bet you can relate to it bcos it happens ALL THE TIME.
Standing in a girl's position, I swear I hate it when guys don't get our hints.
However, if I stand in a guy's position, do you know how tough it is to guess how a girl feels every single time? Like I mentioned, we're wired discretely. We can't always expect guys to understand how we feel if we're not gonna be frank and direct about our thoughts inside.
I'm just waiting and hoping that you could give me the slightest hint about how you feel towards me. I'm really tired of guessing.
Scenario 2 :
Telling him to leave you alone.
Reality: You really want him to be there by your side.
And when he really leaves:
As much as we hate to guess what the hell is going through a guy's mind, guys hate it too. Majority will just accept what's given bcos they are not as intuitional as girls. They DO NOT over think and are not as sensitive as we are.
ACCEPT THE FACT THAT, they are built this way. As simple as it may sound, you have to fight for the things you want.
I've learned that, if you're just gonna stand there and wait for him to comprehend what's inside of you, you can dream on about attaining your happiness.
Of course, as a girl I know how reserved we are, and how we don't have as much guts as guys to air our thoughts... In fear of rejection.
BUT IF YOU DON'T SAY IT, DON'T EXPECT HIM TO GET IT ALL THE TIME. AND IF HE DOESN'T GET IT, DON'T GET MAD AT HIM FOR IT. Simple.
(2) TEMPER-A-MENTAL
One minute, she's happy and the next thing you know, she's close to tears. WHAT'S WRONG WITH GIRLS?! I bet this sentence hits every guy's mind.
I don't know, it's not always PMS (Pre-Menstrual Symptoms) that's acting up, but girls can get all emotional for nothing. Just like the weather, sometimes there are simply no signs to it.
One moment, she's head over heels for you, and next, you've not a single clue how she feels about you and acts really indifferent towards you.
Or they just change their minds like the speed of wind.
Well, I feel this way as well bcos sometimes it's frustrating to tolerate my girlfriends' or mom's temper too...
(3) STEREOTYPING
Girls that have been dumped before... Do you constantly find yourself classifying all the guys under the "jerks" or "douche bags" category just bcos of that one or handful that hurt you?
Comments like, "Oh c'mon, all guys are the same." "What's new? He's just another jerk." are really unjustified.
I admit, sometimes guys DO change from the period when they are courting you till it develops into a relationship. But girls you can't be prejudicial to all the guys out there and have the mindset that "ALL GUYS ARE THE SAME." just bcos of that asshole who let you down.
I know how it feels like to be toyed and all, been there done that. But that doesn't give you the rights to generalize this issue based on one incident!!! Wayyyy to unfair for the guys isn't it?
Think about it if you're in their position; If a guy is gonna have that mindset that you're just like one of those girls out there just bcos of someone's mistake, NOT YOURS.
(4) OVERLY DEMANDING/ SETTING ROCKET HIGH EXPECTATIONS.
Realize how some girls always have 123456789987654321 things they expect from a guy?
"NOOOOO, my expectations are NOT really high..."
I just want a rich, macho (but he mustn't win me in a wrestling game), smart (can't outwit me), as handsome as Max Irons, as sexy as Robert Pattinson, as hot as Zac Efron, as cute as Zayn Malik, but can't be too good looking in case he attracts too much attention, he mustn't smoke, mustn't drink, he has to treat me like his princess, so on and so forth...
As much as I wish there were such guys alive...
CRY A RIVER, BUT THIS KINDA GUYS DO NOT EXIST.
Or, are maybe taken by a female dinosaur.
Guys are humans too, please don't expect them to be perfect. Buy a Ken doll if you're thaaat obsessed over perfection.
Expectations like expecting guys to make the first move all the time may contribute to the level of annoyance as well.
Like how you want him to call/text you, ask you out on dates FIRST. C'mon ladies, there are times where you need to learn that you can't have everything your way and for relationships to work out, both parties should put in the equal amount of effort.
Of course, I still stand my ground that guys SHOULD make the first move when it comes to exceptions like, if you're courting a girl etc.
(5) PARANOIA
NOTE: This point doesn't only goes out to the males out there!!!
Finally, the part that I'd love to rant most about. I don't know why, but girls always have this tendency of thinking wayyyyy toooooo much. It's like, actually there's nothing... But we think so much until the point where we get ourselves upset... Over NOTHING, yes I mean N.O.T.H.I.N.G
Scenario 5 :
Your boyfriend told you that he's gonna be returning home late and might not be able to reply to your texts on time because he'll be busy.
Some girls will start getting all paranoid and skeptical...
Why hasn't he gone home yet? Is he out with girls? Could he be lying to me?
Decides to send him a text to check on him....
"Hey baby, where are you? Are you going home soon?"
*5 minutes later*
Why hasn't he replied? It has been sooooo LONG since I texted him. Is he fooling around outside?? or... OMG, IS HE IGNORING ME?!
FYL really. Girls like this should just stay the f*ck single. Why? IF THERE IS NO TRUST, FORGET ABOUT GETTING INTO A RELATIONSHIP! A guy needs no second mom!!!
Besides that....
Jealousy towards any other things!!! I hate how girls get jealous over the tiniest things. Yes, I hate how I do too.
Jealous over the girl who speaks to your crush, jealous over the girl who looks prettier than you do, jealous over your ex boyfriend's new date. Jealous over the girl with more vagina hair. Ok kidding.
But seriously, stop getting jealous over stupid things!!!! Even if you're jealous, you don't do things to harm the other party, get it?
Realize how much drama can be caused out of simple jealousy?
Example 1) I like him, he likes her so... FUCK THAT SLUT.
Calling people a slut just because your crush doesn't like you?! Get over yourself!
Example 2) She is much more capable than me... I CAN'T TAKE IT. SO I'M GONNA BITCH ABOUT HER!!!
So girls, if you happen to fall into these categories, snap out of it quick before it's too late. Everything takes two hands to clap, yes, including a relationship. Sometimes we tend to push all the blame to our boyfriends, raging about how they just don't ever understand us, or they just don't ever try.
Honestly, if you take a step back now and look at the picture again, you might not see/ feel/ think the same anymore. Let's all learn how to be a better girlfriend, and not be a scumbag girlfriend anymore!
:D
Labels: Rants
The Thing(s) About Girls
Wednesday, April 11, 2012 | 10:40 PM | 0comments
Yes, here's the irony... I'm certainly aware that I'm a girl myself.
BUT BEFORE YOU START TRASHING THE HELL OUT OF ME...
I'm just voicing my thoughts out based on what I observe from MOST (not all) girls, which includes myself.
Despite being a girl, I really hate how we behave and deal with particular things at times. As we all know, guys and girls are wired differently. Instead of pointing out the flaws that we have to the guys out there... I believe you're expecting me to be listing the million and one reasons to side my own sex.
But nah, I'm tired of listening to the excuses we intentionally make sometimes just to get away with things.
(1) CONTRADICTION
C'mon face it, we all know how annoying girls can get when it comes to contradictory. It's like we tend to "eat" our words; The thoughts in our mind and the things we say, most of the time, do not complement each other. For instance...
Scenario 1:
When your boyfriend asks if he could hang out with his friends and not accompany you today:
Response: "Nahhhh, it's okay. I can do fine without you babe. REALLY. Just go ahead."
In reality: *Hoping he'd change his mind.*
And when he carries out his plans with his friends and left you alone:
*GETS ALL MAD AND CRANKY*
When he texts you:
*I'm gonna give him one-word replies cos I'm mad at him for leaving me alone!!!*
Yet when he asks you what's wrong and if you were okay:
*Nothing, nothing's wrong. Yea, I'm okay."
And if he doesn't get your intended message/hint:
*GETS DOUBLY MAD OR EVEN UPSET.*
As contradicting as it is.... It's like....
Isn't this situation familiar to some of you? Bet you can relate to it bcos it happens ALL THE TIME.
Standing in a girl's position, I swear I hate it when guys don't get our hints.
However, if I stand in a guy's position, do you know how tough it is to guess how a girl feels every single time? Like I mentioned, we're wired discretely. We can't always expect guys to understand how we feel if we're not gonna be frank and direct about our thoughts inside.
I'm just waiting and hoping that you could give me the slightest hint about how you feel towards me. I'm really tired of guessing.
Scenario 2 :
Telling him to leave you alone.
Reality: You really want him to be there by your side.
And when he really leaves:
As much as we hate to guess what the hell is going through a guy's mind, guys hate it too. Majority will just accept what's given bcos they are not as intuitional as girls. They DO NOT over think and are not as sensitive as we are.
ACCEPT THE FACT THAT, they are built this way. As simple as it may sound, you have to fight for the things you want.
I've learned that, if you're just gonna stand there and wait for him to comprehend what's inside of you, you can dream on about attaining your happiness.
Of course, as a girl I know how reserved we are, and how we don't have as much guts as guys to air our thoughts... In fear of rejection.
BUT IF YOU DON'T SAY IT, DON'T EXPECT HIM TO GET IT ALL THE TIME. AND IF HE DOESN'T GET IT, DON'T GET MAD AT HIM FOR IT. Simple.
(2) TEMPER-A-MENTAL
One minute, she's happy and the next thing you know, she's close to tears. WHAT'S WRONG WITH GIRLS?! I bet this sentence hits every guy's mind.
I don't know, it's not always PMS (Pre-Menstrual Symptoms) that's acting up, but girls can get all emotional for nothing. Just like the weather, sometimes there are simply no signs to it.
One moment, she's head over heels for you, and next, you've not a single clue how she feels about you and acts really indifferent towards you.
Or they just change their minds like the speed of wind.
Well, I feel this way as well bcos sometimes it's frustrating to tolerate my girlfriends' or mom's temper too...
(3) STEREOTYPING
Girls that have been dumped before... Do you constantly find yourself classifying all the guys under the "jerks" or "douche bags" category just bcos of that one or handful that hurt you?
Comments like, "Oh c'mon, all guys are the same." "What's new? He's just another jerk." are really unjustified.
I admit, sometimes guys DO change from the period when they are courting you till it develops into a relationship. But girls you can't be prejudicial to all the guys out there and have the mindset that "ALL GUYS ARE THE SAME." just bcos of that asshole who let you down.
I know how it feels like to be toyed and all, been there done that. But that doesn't give you the rights to generalize this issue based on one incident!!! Wayyyy to unfair for the guys isn't it?
Think about it if you're in their position; If a guy is gonna have that mindset that you're just like one of those girls out there just bcos of someone's mistake, NOT YOURS.
(4) OVERLY DEMANDING/ SETTING ROCKET HIGH EXPECTATIONS.
Realize how some girls always have 123456789987654321 things they expect from a guy?
"NOOOOO, my expectations are NOT really high..."
I just want a rich, macho (but he mustn't win me in a wrestling game), smart (can't outwit me), as handsome as Max Irons, as sexy as Robert Pattinson, as hot as Zac Efron, as cute as Zayn Malik, but can't be too good looking in case he attracts too much attention, he mustn't smoke, mustn't drink, he has to treat me like his princess, so on and so forth...
As much as I wish there were such guys alive...
CRY A RIVER, BUT THIS KINDA GUYS DO NOT EXIST.
Or, are maybe taken by a female dinosaur.
Guys are humans too, please don't expect them to be perfect. Buy a Ken doll if you're thaaat obsessed over perfection.
Expectations like expecting guys to make the first move all the time may contribute to the level of annoyance as well.
Like how you want him to call/text you, ask you out on dates FIRST. C'mon ladies, there are times where you need to learn that you can't have everything your way and for relationships to work out, both parties should put in the equal amount of effort.
Of course, I still stand my ground that guys SHOULD make the first move when it comes to exceptions like, if you're courting a girl etc.
(5) PARANOIA
NOTE: This point doesn't only goes out to the males out there!!!
Finally, the part that I'd love to rant most about. I don't know why, but girls always have this tendency of thinking wayyyyy toooooo much. It's like, actually there's nothing... But we think so much until the point where we get ourselves upset... Over NOTHING, yes I mean N.O.T.H.I.N.G
Scenario 5 :
Your boyfriend told you that he's gonna be returning home late and might not be able to reply to your texts on time because he'll be busy.
Some girls will start getting all paranoid and skeptical...
Why hasn't he gone home yet? Is he out with girls? Could he be lying to me?
Decides to send him a text to check on him....
"Hey baby, where are you? Are you going home soon?"
*5 minutes later*
Why hasn't he replied? It has been sooooo LONG since I texted him. Is he fooling around outside?? or... OMG, IS HE IGNORING ME?!
FYL really. Girls like this should just stay the f*ck single. Why? IF THERE IS NO TRUST, FORGET ABOUT GETTING INTO A RELATIONSHIP! A guy needs no second mom!!!
Besides that....
Jealousy towards any other things!!! I hate how girls get jealous over the tiniest things. Yes, I hate how I do too.
Jealous over the girl who speaks to your crush, jealous over the girl who looks prettier than you do, jealous over your ex boyfriend's new date. Jealous over the girl with more vagina hair. Ok kidding.
But seriously, stop getting jealous over stupid things!!!! Even if you're jealous, you don't do things to harm the other party, get it?
Realize how much drama can be caused out of simple jealousy?
Example 1) I like him, he likes her so... FUCK THAT SLUT.
Calling people a slut just because your crush doesn't like you?! Get over yourself!
Example 2) She is much more capable than me... I CAN'T TAKE IT. SO I'M GONNA BITCH ABOUT HER!!!
So girls, if you happen to fall into these categories, snap out of it quick before it's too late. Everything takes two hands to clap, yes, including a relationship. Sometimes we tend to push all the blame to our boyfriends, raging about how they just don't ever understand us, or they just don't ever try.
Honestly, if you take a step back now and look at the picture again, you might not see/ feel/ think the same anymore. Let's all learn how to be a better girlfriend, and not be a scumbag girlfriend anymore!
:D
Labels: Rants
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Who are you?
I'm Naomi, better known as Naomi Neo, and I'm born on the 25th of January 1996. I don't have any siblings, but I'm grateful to have the best parents in the world, who love me unconditionally, and a best friend Trixy who's been there for me for the past 5 years. Currently titled as the youngest "Celebrity Blogger" under my management, Gushcloud - With approximately 124k likes & followers on my Facebook profile and page, 80k followers on twitter and 116k on Instagram currently.
What are you known for?
Honestly, I've no idea what am I known for in majority's eyes, but here's what I presume and hope to be recognised for - I've been writing on all my social platforms since 2009, and got kind of known from writing my thoughts and views on Facebook. My first blog post that went viral was an entry dedicated to my good friend back then, titled "Mothers," in late 2010. Noticing the positive results, I decided to take blogging a little more seriously in 2011. Since then, I've been told that my posts were relatable and inspiring to many, which hence, got me to where I am today.
How well to do is your family? You seem rather spoilt.
I think I'm just average and if you think I'm wealthy rich and spoilt, you're so wrong. I mean yes, my parents do pamper me cos I'm the only child, but I've never taken their money since 2013. And I pay for all my clothes, accessories, make up and 90% of my daily necessities from the money I earn.
What are your stats?
I'm a UK 4 or 6, I've been stuck between 38kg - 40kg. Since I've never really talked about my height, you can deduce I'm exceptionally short and I'm not proud of it - So if you know it, good for you. If you don't, too bad I'm not revealing it. :p
Are you single?
Yes I am. My last relationship was in 2013, and I'm not seeing anyone at the moment.
Do you photoshop your pictures?
No, I don't. Cos I honestly have no idea how to use that crazily complexed software. Ok, it's not very complicated I suppose. I'm just god damn lazy. I only use it to design my texts etc. However, I've been using PicMonkey to edit my pictures. Yeah I know, the main question's still back to whether I "beautify" myself or not. Er, I've no idea what's up with people constantly harping on this issue. The last time I claimed that I don't, was probably in 2012 (which I really didn't back then) But along the way, I figured it was necessary to "upgrade" myself and learn how to. If I can't do plastic surgery, at least make my pictures look chio what. If you know how to, question is, WHY NOT? And, don't you guys wanna see nice pictures too?!?! However I'd like to emphasise that - I do not beautify myself in all my pictures. I only do so when I feel the need to. And 3/4 of the time, I only make adjustments to my gigantic, elephant legs WHICH I admit, I'm very insecure about. So don't tell me my legs are damn nice la, cos some pictures are deceiving. Anyway, I've tons of videos everywhere... Judge for yourself?
Did you have any plastic surgery done?
No I didn't. Firstly, I could not afford to. Secondly, even if I do have the money, my parents are definitely not open to the idea. Thirdly, if I have the money and my parents' consent... OH PLEASE, I would have made myself look a zillion times better than how I am now. So some of you may ask, why is it that I have parallel eyelids. I've mentioned this before, but since some of you are too lazy to find out the truth - Fyi, I am born with double eyelids to begin with, I just wanted to have parallel instead of tapered eyelids. And in case you're really sensitive about it, I'm not saying tapered's not nice... It's just personal preference. In case you don't know what I'm talking about...
So yeah, I tried using eyelid tapes for about 6 months in 2011, and miraculously, have permanent parallel lids since then. I think I'm really lucky. Why do I say so? Cos it doesn't work for everyone.
Don't you think it's better to be natural?
Unfortunately, not everyone's blessed with natural beauty. And even though I've never claimed to be ugly, I've never claimed to be pretty by nature either. I won't deny I've been rather extravagant when it comes to the amount of money I spend on things to beautify my physical appearance, cos sadly, it is important to look good in this society today. You can read more on my views about physical appearance (here). And I don't see anything wrong with wanting to look good or better. Everybody wants to. If you tell me you value natural beauty, I'm cool with it, but if you tell me about your self-righteous logic on how it's wrong to enhance your appearance... Fuck you, go marry a plant since you like it natural.
Don't you think it's better to be natural?
Unfortunately, not everyone's blessed with natural beauty. And even though I've never claimed to be ugly, I've never claimed to be pretty by nature either. I won't deny I've been rather extravagant when it comes to the amount of money I spend on things to beautify my physical appearance, cos sadly, it is important to look good in this society today. You can read more on my views about physical appearance (here). And I don't see anything wrong with wanting to look good or better. Everybody wants to. If you tell me you value natural beauty, I'm cool with it, but if you tell me about your self-righteous logic on how it's wrong to enhance your appearance... Fuck you, go marry a plant since you like it natural.
Are you insecure about your looks?
Yes I am, to a certain extent. I believe you would too, if you have a hundred people reminding you about your flaws every single day. But the thing is, I love myself. So I've accepted that's it's fine not to be perfect.
Do you think you're attention seeking?
Most ridiculous question ever. My question to you is, are you not? This is probably my millionth time saying this, but I think everyone seeks for attention. The only thing that differentiates each of us would be the miles we would travel for it. From a level of - I want attention to Kim Kardashian, it's just a matter of fact how much you want it. And I see absolutely nothing wrong with it unless you're doing something despicable, and harming someone to your own benefits. Besides, no matter how much I love it - It may sound ironic, but I hate unnecessary attention. I only like it when it's for something I worked hard to gain. If you know me well enough, I'm not the kind who would go nude just to get myself to where I want. (Just an example)
How do you deal with your haters?
I've been receiving nasty comments since the day I had a blog, in 2007. I've seen the worst, and it came to a point where it amuses me, because I actually get to find out things I didn't know about myself. I used to care so much, I would cry myself to bed on most nights and I even had issues stepping out of my house at a period of time. However, it took me years to realise how stupid it is to reciprocate to what people who don't me have to say, especially stories/rumours they fabricate. I'm fine with constructive criticisms because I've learnt to take it the positive way - Helping me to improve and get better. Of course it still pisses me off at times when I see untrue stuff about me circulated around by my haters, and I'd either ignore it (if it's nothing too serious) or address it, in other words, stand up for myself (if I find a need to.) And when I ignore it, I don't look at it in a way where I'm a coward or I admit to it - I just find it a waste of time to acknowledge the existence of these people, when most of them are just dying to get my response from their juvenile remarks. Yet when I retaliate, (which I rarely do these days) I only do so when something's getting out of hand. Like if it's tarnishing my reputation or sort. After all, I'm a girl. And I wouldn't "just ignore it" if it affects my name. If I don't stand up for myself, who would? Then again, I don't think that means I care about my haters - I just care about myself enough to want to shut your mouth. Besides, I can stop 1, 2 or 3 people from talking about me, but how many times can I do so? Fact is, you can't please everyone. So it's either you focus on what you have, or waste your life by dwelling on what you don't. And for those friends who decided to leave and hate me for what others have to say? Here's a big... THANK YOU. Haha, if it wasn't for you, I wouldn't have realised who my real friends were.
Do you think you deserve what you have now?
Honestly, I've always felt that I don't in a way, cos of how affected I used to be about what people have to say - "There are better looking people out there," "You are not good enough!" etc. However, I've came to a realisation that it's impossible to be the best. Cos there will always be someone better, no matter how good you think you are. And as long as I think I've done my best, I don't see why I don't deserve to be where I am today. I've worked so hard for the things I have, and it's not like everything I have is an overnight success. So too bad if you beg to differ and think that a) I'm only here due to my looks, which I think is completely senseless, cos if it was just about my looks, I wouldn't have been around after so long - Taking into consideration, the ever-rising number of good-looking people there are today. b) it's bcos of what I write, cos I definitely won't claim to be the best writer. Somehow it's still a mystery to me why people still read my blog until today. c) and it's probably cos you don't know me well enough. I definitely agree that someone out there deserves this so much more than I do, but I guess it's true that life's unfair, and I'm sorry I have no control over it.
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